Who's the Architect of Your Life?
New Year's Resolutions
The first of the year people take time to reevaluate their lives. Reflect on the past and make adjustments for the future. Goal setting and making New Year's resolutions are the norm at the first of the year. However, by mid- summer, many of those New Year's resolutions are long forgotten and the list of goals are collecting dust in a desk drawer somewhere.
Many of people have resolved never to make another New Year's resolution for as long as they live. They walk away from the first part of the year discouraged and disappointed that yet another year is passing by without reaching their goals. They haven't found the "Perfect Job," "Perfect Mate," and still can't fit into that "Perfect Outfit."
As a life coach, I love asking powerful questions. This leads people through a self-discovery process that allows them to identify the barriers that hinder full potential living.
Here at Breakthrough for Life we call it crafting your winning life.
So let me ask you a few questions.
- Do you have a life vision?
- How do your goals fit into your life vision?
- What is a tangible reminder of the details for your life vision?
Be the Architect of Your Winning Life
A life vision is vital in creating the alignment necessary for all your life’s activity. It is the vehicle to your destiny. The why behind your life vision is the motivation or gas necessary for maintaining the course to your future. Your goals are how you will accomplish your vision. Your how is the engine that will drive the vehicle along the journey.
When your why is big enough you will find the how. Les Brown
Think of it as an architect’s blueprint for a home. It lays out the areas of life that are important to you. Consider it the framework that holds your goals, tasks, and actions in line with your future vision. A life vision will clearly define areas of your life like the ones listed below.
- What type of person do you want to be?
- A role model to youth and/or young adults
- Footloose and fancy-free
- A person of strong moral character, principles, and values (if so, define them)
- Life Purpose
- What are you uniquely designed to contribute to the world?
- What is a career path directly suited for your skills, talents, and strengths?
- What do you love to do that fuels your passion and gives your life a sense of meaning?
- Quality of Life
- Do you want to live in the city or the suburbs
- Travel abroad or local
- Live lavish or keep it simple
- Live a life of contribution or only maintain your immediate family needs
- Personal Family Dynamic
- Single or Marriage
- Kids (how many) or no kids
- Live next door to your in-laws on the family compound or on an island all by yourself
Craft a Winning Life Vision
A life vision is the “What” you want to do and goals are the “How” you are going to do it. The more specific you are about the “What” the easier it will be to define the “How.” The “Why” is the gasoline that will keep you moving forward when the road gets rough - because it will. Nothing worth having is ever easy! You need all three components to stay mentally and physically engaged in the process of creating a life you can fall in love with year after year.
What do you want your life to look like and who do you want to become in the process?
What = The Vehicle to your destiny
Why do you want it?
Why = The Gas to fuel the course to your life vision
How are you going to make it happen?
How = The Engine to drive the vehicle along the journey
Architects Deflate the Fear of the Unknown
Creating goals without a life vision is similar to putting up 2x4 beams in random places of a home. In order to have a finished product that looks like the architect's original design, the beams need to be strategically placed as indicated by the blueprint. Otherwise, one side of the house may have no walls!
Look! Only God knows the end from the beginning. That is why it is so important to stay connected to Him for His vision for your life. He is not trying to keep it a secret!
To deflate the fear of the unknown, one must learn to trust the Giver of life purpose.
There will be adjustments that need to be made along the life-building journey. Unfortunately, you may even get derailed and have to make considerable adjustments.
However, this is no different than traveling out of town and running into road construction that causes a detour. You don't turn around and go back to where you started. You simply find a new path to the destination. Go-getters are committed to the goal but flexible with the path.
If you have a life vision, you are more likely to create the life you always desired. As opposed to just letting life happen because you're fearful of an unpredictable future. You may not be able to predict the future but you sure can be intentional about the steps you take now. You may even be surprised how well your life turns out in spite of the detours. Being intentional about your life vision and tapping into your destiny may even produce a life better than you visualized.
You are your life’s architect. What are you going to build?
You have a choice, either life is going to happen to you or you are going to happen to life. Coach BU
Get more tips, tools, and gems from the Breakthrough with Brenda podcast episode #4 - Defeating the Fear of Failure. We hope you enjoy it.
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